Matthew’s
Gospel opens with the triumphant proclamation of the new Davidic king in his
genealogy, then immediately follows with the story of Joseph, who enlightened
by the angel agrees to take Mary as his wife and to act as foster father to
God’s son. Next the Magi come from the East following a star which comes to
rest over the place where the child was. Matthew tells us that they rejoiced
exceedingly with great joy and when they saw the child with Mary his mother,
they fell down and worshiped him. Immediately following, however, the family
learns that it must flee to Egypt to escape the furious rage of Herod; there
follows the senseless slaughter of innocent children, and the wailing and loud
lamentation of inconsolable parents. Jesus is immediately plunged into the
sufferings and hopes of Israel, which are not lessened by his coming but even
increase. But none of this is in vain, with the birth of Jesus, the sufferings
and hopes not only of all of Israel but of all humanity but are taken up by God
and drawn into his redemption plan to restore all things to himself.
Joseph
figures strongly in this passage. Its whole drama is framed and moves forward
according to his decisions regarding the revelation of the divine will through
the angel. He is told to flee to Egypt to avoid the plotting of Herod against
the child. After the death of Herod he returns to Israel, and, finally, once
again warned in a dream, he decides to settle in Galilee. In each instance we
see Joseph carry out his task with a mature manly responsibility and
simplicity. Implicit in the text is the sense that that despite the
unsettledness, uncertainty and financial insecurity of their situation, Mary
and the child receive good care under his guardianship.
In each
of these encounters with the angel in today’s passage we see God acting with
free and full disposal over the life of Joseph. But this is because he has
previously received permission from Joseph in the first encounter with the
angel; when he gave his assent to do as the angel commanded him and to take
Mary his wife into his home. In other words, Joseph’s actions just happen out
of the blue presuppose the events Matthew has already related.
Joseph was betrothed to Mary, he would
have simply looked forward in joy and hope, like any other man, to a normal
earthly marriage. In his betrothal he experienced real feminine love from Mary,
with all the sense of fulfillment that only feminine love can give a man. And
in the light of that love Joseph would have begun to make plans, imagining what
his future life would be as husband and father to his wife and family, and
have begun to take steps to make it a
reality when the time came for them to live together. He has chosen marriage in
freedom and responsibility and within the expectations of a normal betrothal
and marriage, he acts with a certain vision of how his future was to unfold.
Everything
changes when he becomes aware of Mary’s pregnancy. At a certain point the
connection with him of Mary’s pregnancy becomes unavoidable and he finds that
he has to act. It is at this point that the angel appears and gives an
explanation. Joseph is now faced with a personal decision: will he say Yes or
No to the angel? In deciding to say Yes he has to say no to the plans he has
made up to this point, including the plan to divorce Mary. He must allow
everything to be reoriented around this new situation. His ‘Yes’ and his
obedience to God must from here on subordinate itself to Mary’s obedience and be
entirely ordered to it.
One of
the most beautiful consequences of the visitation of the angel to Joseph is not
only that he is able to continue to share the life of the woman he loves but
that, because the revelation comes from the angel, Joseph is able to share in this
deepest mystery of Mary’s existence while at the same time respecting in silent
reverence this profound secret she has with God and carries at the heart of her
being. Mary can maintain her secret with God in her heart and yet at the same
time be understood by her husband.
Mary’s
position is one of utter solitude between the Old and the New Covenant. She’s
neither in one nor the other. She has nowhere to turn. The representatives of
the Old Covenant would not understand her and the New Covenant hasn’t arrived
yet. The angel introduces Joseph into the mystery of the New Covenant, enabling
them to live in mutual understanding while at the same time maintaining a protective
veil over the mystery of Mary’s life with God.
All
Christian married couples share in the grace of the mystery between Mary and
Joseph. Along with the deep intimacy of their life of faith there remains a
sphere of mystery of their life with God that cannot be shared and that each is
to respect in the other with a respectful reverence. The existence of such a
private realm is in no way an obstacle to their mutual love but actually makes
it more fruitful, renews it and infuses it with new life.
God sends
his angel to speak to both Joseph and Mary: at his appearance both are given a
participation in the same mission. It is here in the unity of their mission
that Joseph and Mary possess their true unity and true self-understanding in
God. Whatever renunciations each of them has had to make for one another and
for their service to God is more than overcome by the unity of their mission
which in fact is the most profound union that can exist between
persons.
The profound union
and complementarity that Mary and Joseph experience comes to be through their
service to this one mission. It is by carrying it out together, each in their
own sphere of activity, day after day, that their union and complementarity
attained its fullness. The origin of their single mission is wholly from above
existed in the mind of God from all eternity, and was prepared for them from
all eternity. Even their coming together in their betrothal and commitment to
one another were already part of God’s providential care.
It’s from within
the gift of this unity of mission that Mary and Joseph are able to take
advantage of opportunities and confront the various trials, sufferings and
difficulties they encounter in their life together raising the child Jesus,
such as the need to flee to Egypt, to pick up once again and return to Israel
after the death of Herod and settle in Nazareth.
Mary and Joseph
in no way brought about or compelled God to grant them their life’s purpose through
their own actions, but they did live in such a way that disposed them to
receive it. As pious Jews, Mary and Joseph entered into their betrothal as
people who want to serve God and belong to one another. Their desire to serve
God would have been primary and formed the basis for their commitment to one
another. Their betrothal and their whole lives were consecrated to this service
of God. We can be sure that Mary and Joseph would have been open to whatever
possibility of service God would have required of them in their marriage; and
that their love of one another would never have displaced God as their first
and primary love. It was this placing of themselves wholly at God’s disposal
that left God free to act, to bestow on them their profound unity of purpose
and to guide them toward such super-abundantly fruitful lives; not only for
themselves but for countless others.
Stained glass from the Pitcairn Collection. Excerpts from a homily by Father Timothy.